We are halfway through the week! How we doin’ out there, people?!

These “4 the Fam” midweek emails will be short, reflective, & actionable — structured to encourage you to press on to the end of the week, specifically in the leadership of your family.

We wear endless hats as parents.

If you’ve got kids who can talk and move, then you’ve got conflict going on at some point in your day.

I bet your least favorite hat is “referee”. It’s for sure mine I think.

But one of my favorite hats lately is “coach”.

Great family leaders call out the potential in their kids (and spouses), design simple systems, and develop the team.

Referees react — and do their best to keep everyone within the boundaries of the game.

Coaches build — and dictate the shape and flow of the game.

Most days we play both characters — and that’s okay!

But presence with God and each other in your home is really built through the shifting from “reacting” (to mistakes, conflict, the drift of daily life)

to “designing a culture and system” (getting the team together, speaking into areas of weakness and opportunity, looking ahead and planning with excellence).

Pick a consistent “friction point” in your family life.

Ask: How can we redesign this friction moment/area to succeed instead of just survive it this week?

If your weekly family life ran on the same level of clarity and consistency you bring to your work, what would change first?

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” - Proverbs 24:3-4

Turn this into a prayer for your family leadership this week. For example:

Father,
Build our home with your wisdom. Establish understanding within our family. Fill every room in our house with your knowledge and presence. May our hearts be a dwelling where Your Spirit delights to live, and may all who enter our home sense your grace at work within us. Amen.

If you haven’t signed up to walk through the “7-Day Family Reset”, you can do that here!

If you don’t know what it is yet, I take you through 1 key area of your family life each day for 1 week — and you get to ask some good questions to:

I’m beta-testing these shorter, actionable midweek emails the remaining weeks of 2025.

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